Celebrate Everyday

Make every day a day to celebrate life and be thankful. Look to every day as a day of new beginnings, opening your heart to positive hope and unlimited potential.

Take time to pull yourself away from all the noise and just look around you. Take inventory. Appreciate those who have enhanced the quality of your life and remember that they have been a gift to you. Also remember that you're a gift to them, too.

Be grateful for the choices you've made, both good and bad. Accept your mistakes: you can't change them anyway. Apply what you've learned and go on.
Use these lessons to help you with your other decisions in life. Appreciate yourself and your own uniqueness. Go outside and look at the sky. Soak in the atmosphere. Enjoy the colors of the landscape. Feel the textures of every place you're thankful for. Smile at the world. Don't allow any negative feelings to creep into your consciousness. Feel the power of your own acceptance. Put a positive spin on every thought you have.

Make every day special. Own it. Enjoy it. Bask in the glory of life. Appreciate the gift of your own life.

# Donna Fargo

How are your 2010 goals going? Check in...

Here we are half way through the year in 2010...already!

Now is a great time to check in to see how your goals are going. Are you on track? What I find a little difficult is writing down a list a my goals that is for the whole year. So this year I actually gave myself time frames to go by which makes it much easier to track your goals.

My 2010 personal goals-

* Move into house- Check
* Re structure work load so I'm not working until 2am 3 times a week- Check
* Lose weight- Mmm! Work in progress but I'm on my way. I have a new work out regime so it's great to be back on the horse.
* Spend quality time with my family- Check

So I must say I am travelling pretty good. So I am happy with my progress of my personal goals. How am I travelling with my business goals?

* eCourse written and launched- Check...now I am actually re working it as per my clients requests...watch this space.
* Home study pack written and launched- Check
* Event by March- Check...I have done my seminar as well as Bras, Boobs & Bubbles nights. However this is an ongoing element for Bra Queen both the seminar and the bra workshops have been extremely well received.
* My blog hosted on it's own domain- Mmm! Well I am working on this as we speak I promise. So yes I am re launching this blog which is super cool.
* Book published- Work in progress I have actually got the most exciting book concept that is going to be out of this world! Eeeee!

So all in all 2010 for me is going extremely well, I am working super hard and have to force myself to stop and enjoy the process.


Reality Check- The most important thing is to celebrate and enjoy everyday to recognise what and when we accomplish something and celebrate at the time. Reward ourselves because we work really hard to accomplish our goals. We are agents of action on a train to awesomeville... I hope you haven't stepped off.

Healthy and Unhealthy Relationships

People want different things from a relationship. Some want to be in love, some want to a casual sexual relationship, some want romance, some want a provider, some want someone who they can be close to...a friend.

It takes time to find someone who wants the same as you. There are also pressures from friends and family about relationships and it can be hard to figure out what it is you actually want. Whether you are single and looking for love or are in a relationship it is important that you-

Take time and ask yourself;

* What I do want from a relationship?
* What do I want?
* What qualities do I like in person
* What are some of my qualities that will appeal to others?
* What don't I want and like?

A healthy relationship is based on respect

Respect is when you are treated fairly and they accept you for who you are and what you have to say.

A healthy relationship is when:

* You have fun together
* You can both be yourself
* You have a friendship, not just a physical relationship
* You can have different opinions and interests without being pressured to change your mind.
* You listen to each other
* You both compromise
* You know you can spend time with other people and not be together all the time


Is Jealously love?

Jealously at first may seem like passion, love or romance but when someone uses anger or jealously to try and control what you do then that is an act that they are trying to own you. This isn't love...it's control

Warning Signs of an abusive relationship

Any one of these things is enough to indicate that something isn't right whether you realise it or not... or maybe you know and you're dismissing it?

* Controls you- wants to know your every move and checks up on you and won't allow you to make decisions.

* Is jealous- is suspicious of you and you find yourself always watching what or when you say something in case it upsets them.

* Isolates you- Cuts you off from friends, family and even themselves.

* Lacks respect- puts you down, criticises you a lot and makes you feel bad about yourself.

* Is often angry- angers easily, yells and shouts; complains about other people; makes harsh judgements about others; becomes really annoyed with anyone who doesn't agree with them.

* Blames everybody else- Blames everything on other people and never admits or apologies for their mistakes.

* Pressures you- Pressures you to say or do things you don't want to do.

Often the word abuse or abusive is easily dismissed because we tend to think of it as domestic violence and sexual however abuse includes-

* Emotional
* Physical
* Sexual
* Financial
* Social

What to do?

Working out whether to stay with someone or break up with them will be the hardest decision you will have to make especially if you have children. Maybe you love them, you feel like you'd be nothing without them or lost without them. You'll have to start again. Maybe you feel trapped or scared of what they might do if you leave.

Talk to someone it will help you decide what to do, you don't have to go through this alone. Talk to a friend, family or a counsellor....but talk.

Safety

* Tell someone and ask for help you can not control their anger.
* Have a code word that you can use with a friend so if you're in danger you can let them know.
* Contact 000 (Australia) or the emergency number in your country
* Always have money available
* Apply for an AVO- Apprehended Violence Order.
* Contact a counselling service or a helpline.

Emergency- 000
Police- 131 444
Kids Helpline- 1800 551 800
Domestic Violence Line- 1800 67 14 42


Although you are scared of the unknown and you feel you are alone you are not there are people with you all the way.

Star in a Bra Top 10

Curvy Kate has just released the Top 10 in their Star in a Bra contest, every year Curvy Kate search for their real woman model in the Star in a Bra contest.
Now it is time for you to have your say...it's time to vote. Who do you like?
I'm leading towards Anna B myself.



We are seeing a whole lot more of lingerie companies conducting contests like this. Recently Marks & Spencer announced they are looking for a DD Cup+ model. Which is great because more people are becoming aware of the fact that people prefer to see real woman. Lets see how real they go shall we... we all know big companies play it safe and don't often think outside the square.

Suicide and Depression

I recently received this message-

I live in a small town like you once did. I have just gone though the hardest week of my life. I have just lost a friend that killed himself because he was going through a hard time?
Sorry I'm writing to you about something like this!!! But I just don't get it.
Ive done it hard over the years, but just cant get my head around why someone that has so many friends and family, goes and does this. I guess at the end of the day, I'm now sad that I have just lost a friend that I couldn't help.
Everyone that I've spoken to about (name) didn't see it coming at all, nor did I.



I can not tell you how much of an honor it is to have people come to me for advice, information or a listening ear on this. But this isn't about me... it's about understanding depression.

Before I start I have to say I have no formal qualifications in Depression, Physiology or counselling. I am a person who has spent an abundance of hours, days, weeks & months trying to reduce the stigma surrounding depression and helping others understand Depression.

The easiest way I can try to explain suicide lead from depression is... When someone dies from cancer, car accidents or heart disease we easily understand the death (it doesn't make it any less sad, just easier to understand) however because most people don't understand suicide and depression it leaves thoughts like why, how, I didn't know. Some people will even think of it as a selfish act.

If you switch your mindset so instead of thinking he commit suicide....think he died from a disease... they died from depression.

Happy people do not commit suicide sad, lonely and depressed people do. Someone who suffers from depression is extremely good at hiding and disguising it. So although they may have had friends and family around them they are just unable to see a way out from the deep dark hole they are in.
There is so much help available for anyone going through this the first port of call is a GP Beyond Blue have a list of GP's who specialise in Mental Illness all you have to do is type in your postcode and a list of GP's in your area will appear.
If you urgently need to speak to someone out of hours call Lifeline 13 11 14 or Kids Helpline 1800 551 800

Here are some interesting facts on suicide and depression from my peeps over at SANE

Suicide, self-harm and mental illness

Having a mental illness is recognised as one of the highest risk factors for suicidal
behaviour and self-harm, yet many people do not receive the practical help they
need to reduce the risk of further attempts . . .


Does talking about suicidal feelings help?
20% Provided with suicide crisis plan
73% Talked about suicidal feelings

After a suicide attempt, are people given help to reduce the risk of it happening again?
20% Provided with suicide crisis plan
80% Not provided with suicide crisis plan

Are people at risk of suicide recognised as having a mental health problem?
64% Diagnosis of mental illness
36% No prior diagnosis

Are people provided with psychological therapy after a suicide attempt?
43% Referred for psychological therapy

Full the full report on self harm from mental illness click here

If you have lost someone from suicide you can read this to hopefully help shed some light.

Bra Review on Underwear of Sweden

SYLVIA

Cost- $49.00

Lift- 9/10

Separation- 9/10

Quality- 9/10

Shape- 9/10

Material- 9/10

Appearance-9/10

Over All- 9/10


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Get Over Yourself!

Funny things happen as life goes on don’t they?

As my heart hurts and I don’t really know why…. I find myself thinking of my loved ones that have past and as much as they bring a smile to face and I feel myself embraced in a memory I feel fear and I don’t know why. I fear the older I get the older my loved ones get and it scares me to think that something *touchwood* would happen to them…

Everyone brings something unique and something special to the table… to the world. You know people feel on so many different levels and sometimes out of fear we block out some elements of our feelings, of ourselves.

When we judge and criticise other people it doesn’t come from their mistakes it comes from ours and who are we to do judge?

What do you bring to the table?

Is a question we all need to ask ourselves… we tend to only think about ourselves and how we feel but stop and think about everyone around us because you know what? We… you are not perfect. You say “tomato” and I say “tom’ato” there are two sides to every story. We can go through the exact same thing and view things totally differently, it doesn’t mean I’m wrong or you’re wrong it means we’re human and that’s the way the world works. We’re both right… if you are so hung up on one aspect of a story then you will miss the entire meaning of the story and that’s not good.

We have to remember what makes you smart? Guaranteed it’s not what makes me smart or your next door neighbour. For every time you think someone isn’t very smart is the very time you have to remember that it’s you that just doesn’t get ‘it’

Everyone has the freedom to be, the freedom to think and the freedom to live…

Don’t judge… don’t be that person you’re so much better then that.