Happy, Humble and Very Grateful

As the festive season draws to an end I find myself feeling happy, humble and very grateful.
What has been an extremely full on year very challenging and trying at times but over all this year has bought me incredible growth both personally and professionally. The journey has been both exhilarating and exhausting.
Christmas Day bought my family together which in any standard is a miracle but it also bought happiness, laughter and tears. Good tears, happy tears, tears that represent pride, admiration, happiness and love, lots of love. Love in that our kids play together, knowing that before we grew up and our different life experiences we used to do the exact same thing.
I still saw the freedom in the eyes of the crazy one dancing alone on the rug,
I still saw the love and the cheekiness in eyes of another one.
I still saw the cruisey one look over all of us with pride, pride in that we can over look our differences and come together with a mutual respect and no judgements.

But over the festive season I encourage you to stop, clarify and start to think about what you would like in 2010.

Braqueen.com.au

My NEW site is up! Finally, it's been a long time in the making :)

I NOW HAVE 2 WEBSITES!
Which one is for you?

BRAQUEEN.COM.AU is for Lingerie Businesses or Business Owners. When you subscribe you receive a FREE REPORT on "5 Tips to SKYROCKET Your Lingerie Business". On this site it has all of my Business Coaching services, I blog about Business and Lingerie; how to improve and create a better business, what's happening within the Lingerie Industry and how to make your business rock!

It is made for lingerie businesses however all businesses are welcome everyone will/can learn.

BRAQUEEN.BLOGSPOT.COMwill not change, it will continue to be Lingerie, Lifestyle and Loving Life!
I will be re launching it very soon however don't worry the content will not change!

Personally I am looking forward to ensuring both sites continue to be awesome! You guys help make it awesome so a BIG THANK YOU for your emails, comments and your support.

2010 is going to go OFF!

Don't Assume!

HOW MANY TIMES DO WE DO THIS?
WHEN WILL WE LEARN?

Why is it that we only really make assumptions when we are not confident in a situation or comfortable with a person that you may be on shaky ground with?

Funny isn't it?
Most times we are wrong, we are looking into something that isn't really there. Therefore we're stressing over nothing!

What I want you to do over the holidays IS
* That family member who is talking about you over the room,
* The conversion that ended as soon as you arrived,
* She said this, he said that.

What we do is think this-
* No! They are not talking about you or if they are they're saying "Boy she is looking goooood!"
* It ended because the conversation finished not because they didn't want you to hear it!
* No they didn't OR if they did go directly to the source and ask them! 99% it has been totally misconstrued along the way!


There don't you feel better? Remember it and practice it and NEVER ASSUME!

Are You a Stress Head?

Do you stress over nothing?

Some people were just born to stress! Whether it be-
* Time management,
* This can't happen, because that might happen
* What if this happens...
* I might make this person angry
* I heard this person said this so.....

Some people just think the worst about EVERYTHING! Doubt everything and everyone, maybe they like it, maybe it's a creation of the cards life has dealt them.....

Some people just worry blah blah blah GET OVER IT!

Sure we have our days we feel like we are drowning in work, feel flat, feel sad whatever.
I have this rule were I try to think -
OK! Is this a HUGE problem?
Will I worry about this in 6 months time?

If the anwser is NO, then RELAX.

* STOP! Think about the problem.
* Concentrate on ONE thing, write a list and mark it off as you've done it.
* What choices do you have? There are ALWAYS choices! Even if you feel like there isn't.
* Go for a walk to clear your head.
* Don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it.

If the house is messy! Don't stress just clean it.
If there is a mark on the floor, don't stress just wipe it.
If you haven't done your shopping, don't worry go and do it or order it over the net if you have too.

Solutions! There are ALWAYS solutions.....

DON'T STRESS! Let's just take one step at a time.

Do You Smack Your Kids?

Is smacking your children appropriate behavior?

For YEARS I have heard people bang on about "The Terrible Two's" but I had no problem with Maddison. HOWEVER 3 on the other hand is a different story, man o man is she testing/naughty/driving me mental.

What is the appropriate discipline to Smack, Time out, Naughty Spot what?

Personally I am totally opposed to smacking and it makes me sick to my stomach even to think about it, don't get me wrong I have WANTED to and thought about it but never have and never will. In saying that I have heaps of friends who smack their kids and I DO NOT judge them for it, everyone is different and there is no right or wrong in my eyes. Unless of course you are betting your child to a pulp or if you hit your child it's because YOU are mad or frustrated not because you are trying to discipline them, then that is a different story.

It is such a dilemma because you REALLY don't want to raise a little shit, you have the older generation saying "I hit you kids and it didn't hurt you" or your partner saying "Clearly time out is NOT working we have to smack her"

What do you do?

I contemplate smacking thinking "OK maybe I am wrong, maybe it would work?" and when you hear "She is such a disrespectful little shit at the moment" SHE IS 3!

But after thinking about it for 2 seconds is just does not sit well with me and I do not feel comfortable with and if I do not feel comfortable with it, then that's OK because you have to be true to yourself and if it doesn't sit well, then it will not happen and it's as simple as that.

Where does that leave us? I don't know hopefully not with a spoilt, disrespectful little girl!

How do you discipline your children when time out is not working?


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Christmas Presents....

Christmas is a week away, my goodness!
Chances are our partners haven't yet sourced and purchased our Christmas presents.

Personally I LOVE the element of surprise however I am a little frighten as to what I might get. Over nearly 11 years I have had some great pressie's and well not so great ones that are still in their boxes.
The down side about being the Bra Queen is I NEVER receive lingerie (from him anyway)and well this may come as a shock to you but I LOVE lingerie! I think he has forgotten :)

Do you run the risk of getting a bad present? Or do you tell your partner what you want for Christmas?

I have done both in the past and this year I am braving it, so I'll keep you posted!

What do you want for Christmas?

Are You Naughty or Nice?

When We Judge....

You know you can have one event and two stories! But multiply the people involved and you multiply the stories.
When we judge someone we are not defining them we are defining ourselves and I really do not want to be that person. Everyone has and is entitled to have freedom of speech and think whatever they choose and no one has the right to judge or take that away. Someone might be on your side but they will still have their own view and their own take on a situation. So go direct to the source deal directly with that person and stop all assumptions and fix the problem.
I really do not think anyone purposefully goes out the hurt someone sometimes it just happens, it doesn't make them a bad person. They just did what they thought was best at that time, and that's OK.

What can you do today to make someone feel good?