Friday, July 10, 2009

Nothing changes if nothing changes

Nothing changes if nothing changes

Not happy with your current eating habits? Change them.

Not happy with your current exercise habit? Do something about it.

Not happy with the way you spend your days? Make a plan to do something different.

Not happy with your financial situation? Write down your options to changing it.

Not happy with your love life? Address the issues.

Not happy with….(type your answers here)

Devise a plan to move from (A) Not happy to (B) Happy then every day, step by step live out that plan. NOTHING CHANGES IF NOTHING CHANGES & it’s up to you and you only to make the changes.

Don’t let yourself be content with feelings of discontent, one life is all you have my friend so make it a ripper! I’m here for you.

Remember, a rolling stone gathers no moss’. Roll baby roll!

This blog was written by urban smiler. I love her thought process we are very similar. Her blog is

Thursday, July 9, 2009

When my TOF Baby Strictures..

The first time Maddison strictures it was dead obvious.
She was 9 months old and she was having her pureed dinner and she choked (which is normal, as you know happens ALL the time)
She then couldn't breathe and she turned blue. So I lay her over my knee pat her back and she brings it back up.

Then she starts choking on her bottle which is of course is liquid. So really, totally crazy and time to go and see her surgeon Tom.

It's a day surgery and Tom says it's very easy a minor surgery. She'll be on puree for a couple of days then back to normal. Great, a bit scary but great.

We go in for the dilation she goes under a general anesthetic they go down with a camera via her mouth insert a balloon and blow it up to stretch her join.

It all went really well and off we went home. I wasn't expecting the recovery time to be sooo painful for her. Chris had gone back to work because we thought it was a minor thing. Not so much!
She was crying hysterically, screaming in pain for 2 days straight. It was horrible for both of us!
But on the 3rd day she started to get better. So that was that.

So when is it time to go back?
This time NOT so obvious. We had only had appointments with her paediatrician and said she was doing great. When we told her what she can eat and what she can't, it was all fine.

In a normal week (she is nearly 3) She will choke at least once. She can't tolerate meat only small pieces of chicken and fish. She can still only eat pureed fruit, lollies are a no no, soft bread no, any big pastas like penne not on your life.
Raw carrots forget it!

If she has a cold Oh my goodness it gets worse! and you know how easily a TOF baby gets a cold. For a normal child it won't be so bad but for a TOF child it's the worst thing ever!

But we were told it was normal so 18 months go by and we have an appointment with Tom. We knew she needed another dilation it was our gut feeling so it wasn't a shock when he said she had too.

WHAT did shock me was this: I asked him 'OK at what point should we bring her back in?'He said 'Most TOF parents fall into the category of safe. Parents give the TOF babies what they know the can tolerate but a TOF baby needs to progress in their foods, so we have to try them on new things and if they aren't or can't then it's time to go back for a dilation!'

What The? I do give her new things but if she struggles and can't then I will stop. She has been doing this for 18 months. She should of had another dilation 18 months ago!
Well as I felt like the most terrible parent in the world!
And Chris said "Renee there is no hand book on this, we were told it was normal. it's not your fault"
I know that, but at that time I really felt bad for my little girl!

You know when EVERYONE around you bangs on about how good she is doing OR they totally forget about her condition because they can't SEE it they think it's not there. When you say no she can't eat that, they think it's because you don't want her to junk or you're just really over the top with her.

You feel like smacking them over the head don't you!

It is there and it will ALWAYS be there and that's OK because we have become expects at managing it and monitoring it.

THE GOLDEN RULE IS Anything with your TOF babies development see your paediatrician. ANYTHING with their join or eating see your surgeon. If they aren't progressing go in they will need a dilation.

Wednesday, July 8, 2009

Music Brings The People

Music does bring people together. It's the only time we are all united.
We hear the same words, dance to the same beat and hear the same music.

Maybe that's why everyone loves it. Is it the freedom or is it the unison or is it that music has the ability to take us back to places with in a instant. It allows us to dream, reminisce and just be.

I totally get why you can heal people through music.

Because behind every person their is really just a child. A creation of what we were exposed to growing up. If you think about your pet peeves or what makes you happy I guarantee you whether you know it or not it relates back to when you were a child.

Sometimes it makes you sad and sometimes it makes you happy and thats life. It's how we choose to process it and hopefully use it to our advantage.

You know we you see someone your entire life and for that whole time you think they are perfect, they can do no wrong. Because in your eyes they are perfect.

Then when you get older and wiser and time passes and 'things' happen you realise they aren't perfect and they do make mistakes.
For some stupid reason you feel disappointed in them and you think they have changed.
Then you realise maybe they haven't changed that you are the one that has changed and grown.
For the first time you are viewing things for how they really are! It's up to you to forgive them within yourself.
They really haven't done anything wrong it's who they have always been. We just didn't see it before because WE chose NOT too.

As much as it has hurt you and that's OK. We live and learn and we move on. It is really only a problem if you don't work through and understand it. Please don't pretend it hasn't happened because it has and it won't go away unless you work through it so you can move on.

Time is precious. Days go by, then weeks, then years. Until it's gone and as somber as that sounds it's true. So you may think that you have more important things to do but I think that's such a cop out. I think you are afraid to deal with your problems. But from the bottom of my heart I hope you do so you can live your life.

Some people don't get that chance, so for the people that do get that chance it's important we do live, laugh and enjoy life.

This is for you, my old friend who sadly didn't get that chance. You didn't even get to finish putting your groceries away! For you, your children and your family I will live my life because I have that chance too.

Thank you for the memories. I'll miss your beautiful eyes and your beautiful/cheeky smile!

Tuesday, July 7, 2009

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It's so easy and informative you see changes to your Google ranking in days!

I highly recommend it to any Small Business or any business for that matter.

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Monday, July 6, 2009

I'm Pole Dancing....

HA! I give you permission to laugh out loud!

Today was the 1st day of my Pole Dancing Course. It was so much fun and I was so not sexy!

But if you're wondering what kind of workout it is well:
It's mostly a strength workout, I can really feel my arms and legs the most.
It's a little cardio but not much, I'll have to keep my 5km walks up!

The thing that I was shocked with is how quickly you learn tricks. I'm already swinging around the pole, sliding down the pole, Arhh dear it's too funny!

It beats weights any day, it is really good for a laugh.

I do it at Pole Princess they are really good.