I'm so tired I feel like a fraud

In my world there are rainbows and light fluffy clouds. Smiling happy children filled with laughter and good times. The perfect balance of juggling children, partner and my businesses all while leading a healthy life.

RRRRRT CRASH..... I am tired

Here's the reality as mind is racing a zillion miles per hour telling me what and when I need to do everything. My body has been saying slowdown...but I don't listen.
My body says; No, really slow down otherwise I'm going to shut it down.

* Little cold, little cold but I'm OK
* Little headache, little headache but I'm OK
* Little tired, alot tired so I have 2 cups of coffee so I'm OK
* Oh really my coffee machine breaks down! That's just mean.

Thank goodness my cold sore pops up right after I finish filming my segment on Room to Grow.
Really! another two cold sores you say. Maybe I should slow down? I'm so tired and so much sleep and I'm still tired.

Let's re access

Day after day, month after month, year after year and sweet Mother of God I am so exhausted I can hardly keep my eyes open. Slowly slowly I missed the hints, I didn't listen but I am not missing this reality check.

So I listen

Every week I give myself 30 mins to give myself a facial, a body scrub and a pedicure. That is my time but in reality that is not enough to keep me balanced.

If I'm going to be the best Mother, Partner and Businesswoman I can be then I need to put myself first.

Otherwise I am fraud a liar and a cheat

To look after my children, work literally every minute of everyday then pull an all nighter and wake up at 7am to start the day again that 30 minutes a week does not cut it, it's just not enough.

Who am I kidding did I really think it was enough.

Time to stop, look and listen. What do you need to readjust?

KU SHU SHU LINGERIE

Introducing Australian lingerie collection KU SHU SHU by Judy Anderson.

KU SHU SHU is heavily influenced by her favourite eras – opulent 18th century costume, the 1920s jazz age and the hourglass 1950s New Look – KU SHU SHU contains unique pieces, created for the wearer to cherish for many years.

Luxurious stretch-woven silk, one-of-a-kind prints and attention to detail in design; the launch of local lingerie label KU SHU SHU targets the discerning woman who loves classically beautiful lingerie.



About the Creator:
A boutique collection of luxurious stretch woven silk lingerie and loungewear, KU SHU SHU was launched in Sydney in 2010 by designer Judy Anderson. Judy grew up amongst the spectacular scenery of northern NSW and, upon finishing school, she enrolled in Fashion College, where her passion for design was nurtured and a talent for lingerie construction led her to her first job as a pattern-maker and designer for a leading Australian label. Her training in bras and corsetry construction was comprehensive and led to a twenty year career working with leading companies including Berlei, Marks and Spencer and Gossard in Australia, the United Kingdom, Portugal, the United States, France and Asia.

Judy’s working travels and collaborations with many wonderfully talented people inspired her to create her own unique label, KU SHU SHU, which reflects and draws upon the styles she admires.



For stockists go to www.kushushu.com

My Feel Good Friend

We all have a friend who is going through something right at this very moment. So STOP and be there for them.

It maybe something small or it maybe some big but whatever it is; be there to listen, to guide or maybe even refer them to someone who can help them.

Sometimes we are so busy and we get caught up in our own lives that we just forget that other people have ‘stuff’. This world is bigger then you and I, sometimes it just takes a call.

What are friends for…?

Maybe YOU are the person who needs help guidance or someone to talk to. Call someone, one of “your people” the person who gets it, gets you.

It’s time for a reality call, your wake up call. What are you going to do today to brighten someone else’s day?

Do you remember my series on Understanding Depression? It’s going so well and I am so proud of it… it makes my heart smile. We nearly have 1000 fans so if you haven’t yet come on board you have too. The wall will leave you speechless reading their inspiring stories.

Carol Malony Lingerie

Is for my sisters with a love for high end couture fashion, attention to detail and luxurious material. They are made ever so well providing you with a great shape and feeling absolutely fantastic.

Carol Malony Lingerie
Available in sizes 32 to 36 (AU 10 to 14) Cups B to D.









To see more of this delicious collection check out Faire Frou Frou

PR Advice for Small Businesses

The fabulous Trevor Young of Parkyoung help me shed some light on PR and how Small Businesses can promote and market their business without having a PR Agent or it costing a fortune!
Creating brand awareness and how to flaunt your business to give you massive exposure and growth.

You can download it via the link below.

Advice on PR and Small Businesses | Bra Queen - Lingerie Business Coach Melbourne:

SURVEY- WOMEN WHO HAVE BREAST IMPLANTS

A client of mine is conducting some Market Research on women who have Breast Implants so if you have Breast Implants or you know someone who has them I would be ever so grateful if you could pass it on.

No names or email addresses required.

Take Breast Implant Survey Here

Reflection on Perfect Parenting

I wrote a post about Reflection & Your Business Mindset but what triggered my thoughts was a discussion we had about Bad Mothers Club and guilt free parenting.

I thought why do we have so much guilt when it comes to being a parent or more specially a Mum?

Upon reflection here is what I think-

1. We hear things like-
a, My kids never had a dummy
b, I only used cloth nappies
c, A good smack never hurt anyone
d, My kids were toilet by the age of 2

So society judges us as to what we 'should' be doing, but do you what?

Whoever has already been through that period of your life that you are experiencing. They think they are perfect, that they were in fact the perfect parent. They forget that sometimes they did feel like

* You were going insane
* You couldn't be bothered to paint/paste or play with your child
* You did just long for some time to yourself
* You did sometimes just lock yourself in room and cry
* You did lose your temper
* You couldn't be bothered cooking a meal
* You did feel alone

2. Guilt by perfection-
When I'm a Mum I'll never...
* I'll only breastfeed
* I'll demand respect
* I'll be so much fun
* I'll be so patient
* I'll always listen
* I'll always cook healthy meals
* I'll never put my child in daycare
* Should I have put my child in daycare
* I'll spend heaps of time with my children


Oh I know I know "I love my kids but...." we know you love your kids but sometimes you wonder-

Where did my life go?
What day is it again?
Sleep what's that?
Me, How am I? Why I don't know no one ever asks.

Reality Is- You are the core of your family, you are what keeps it together, the drop off, the pick up, the chef, the cleaner, the organiser, the breadwinner, the motivator, the counsellor, the partner, the lover, the friend, the disciplinary, the shopper, the bill payer, the money saver and time saver.

So you what! You're not perfect and you'll never be perfect and whoever says they are are full of BS. But what you are is amazing to do what you do and give the way you give, you are nothing short of an inspiration. But give to yourself allow time to yourself just to be....


Upon reflection how do you feel?